My daughter got her driver’s license last week. She is so excited about her new found freedom. There’s nothing like jumping in the car to go visit friends, shop, hit the beach, or grab an iced “Peach vanilla lemonade hibiscus chai green tea, or something like that, on a hot summer day. I am happy for her, I really am. But, this big accomplishment in my teenager’s life stirred up some feelings I didn’t expect.
My excitement turned into envy, and I sank into the part of me that wishes I could still drive. I am now the only one in my family who can’t drive. They all have the freedom to hop in a car, and come and go as they please. This moment was just another reminder of what I lost almost 4 years ago. I miss driving and all the perks that came with it. My daughter earned the privilege of driving, and for that, I was happy! And yet, to my surprise, I felt sad.
If you’ve never had your driving ability taken away, you may not understand the bittersweet feelings I’m experiencing. I hope you NEVER experience these emotions. Because if you did, well, that would mean you became legally blind, (as I did at the age of 50), and you can’t drive anymore. And honestly, that combination is emotionally painful.
That pain can be hard to cope with…and I gave myself permission to pout. But, not for too long, because I don’t want to miss out on this exciting time for her!! I’m looking forward to creating fabulous memories of us driving together. She is an amazing daughter and I’m very proud of her! So, let the Starbucks runs begin!!! There’s NOTHIN’ sad about coffee! Woo Hoo!
I TOTALLY GET IT………….I FELT THAT WAY WHEN MY GIRLS ,MOVED OUT…THEY SPRUNG IT ON ME LIKE “GUESS WHAT, TOMORROW WE ARE MOVING OUT………I TOTALLY GET THE G OF NOT BEING NEEDED ANYMORE BUT I GOT OVER IT QUCIKLY!!…..WELL, ERIN MOVED BACK IN FOR ABOUT 9YEARS
HERE IS MISS MOLLY GOING TO GO TO SCHOOL?? YOUR KIDS ARE GREAT AND GUESS WHY??? YOU ARE GREAT.
Well said. I wondered when I ran into you how this would change your life. You are so strong and such a great mom.
Good girl! Now you have someone else to give you a ride if you need it. Hugs!!
Totally understandable. Driving was so difficult to lose.
As usual you are very gracious about your sadness….I cry for your loss
Much love Erin
She will have all the opportunities to learn the grid system, downtown, malls, coffee shops, salons and that is going to be just the first week! My kids all became great drivers and navigators as they got the opportunities that others may not of been afforded. What a moment for your family, enjoy it and don’t worry, their wings keep spreading and soon they fly, drive and call and text, the cat’s in the cradle and the silver spoon… Oh, what a feeling. I am glad yu are happy for her. Remember to make sure you get 2 of those radio stations! 🙂