I get asked a lot of questions about what I can, (or can’t), see. It’s okay… I don’t mind. One question I’ve been asked is “if you’re looking right at me, what can you see?” To answer, I go into the usual spiel and explain that they are in a cloudy blur (like everything else), I can make out the shape of their body, if there clothing is dark or light, can’t see their face, and blah blah blah. What they don’t realize is that since losing vision, I’m not really looking at them, I’m looking at what comes from WITHIN them. Whaaa? Yeah, it’s kinda my blind thing.
First, let me tell you what I’m not able to see when people are approaching, or when I’m engaged in conversation with someone. I can’t really see things like hair color or style, facial hair or clean-shaven, tattoos, piercings, makeup, jewelry, clothing, or shoes which create one’s physical appearance. Someone may look gorgeous or grotesque, a total hot mess or hot. as. hell. and their “appearance” WON’T be the first thing I notice about them. Okay…don’t get me wrong, I appreciate a well-dressed and well groomed hottie just as much as the next blind gal… but, none of that is going to tell me what a person is truly all about. Yep, There’s more to a person than meets my eyes.
So, How can I “see” people? Well…I’ve learned to “see” by listening. If you put on a blindfold and had a conversation with someone… all you would have is their voice and words to visualize who they are. That’s what I do now…all the time. I can tell quite a bit by listening, with no visual distractions, to WHAT people say, HOW they say it, and the vibe, the feeling, I get from them.
When I listen to people and engage with what they are saying, even if it’s just small talk, I’m getting a feel for who they are verbally, not visually. Which honestly, can be a good thing or a bad thing for some folks. If I can hear any hint of compassion, empathy, kindness, confidence, positivity, passion, humor, intelligence, or love in their voice and words, it’s a beautiful thing! These characteristics have nothing to do with their physical appearance, and everything to do with their inner beauty, heart and soul. If their vibe creates a safe and supportive feeling…. bonus beauty points for them!
It’s like that old saying… “You can’t judge a book by it’s cover”. And If I can’t see the size, shape, or style of that cover, I will look to “see” what kind of beauty, heart, and soul lies within. Yeah, that’s kinda my blind thing. xx